Bullying

What is bullying?

‘Bullying, the act of violating or interfering either, physically, mentally or emotionally with another person’s right to be happy and avoid suffering’

Some scenarios
You’re at work and a colleague sends a caricature of you via email; is this bullying?

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   You’re in a boardroom meeting, and the chairperson intentionally undermines & physically intimidates you; is this bullying?
2. 
   You’re child is teased on the playing ground; is this bullying?
3. 
   You’re child is behaving in ways that’s not within his/her character in order to fit in; are they being bullied?
4. 
   You’re partner shouts you down whenever you have a major difference of opinions on a jugular (emotionally heated) issue; is this bullying?

The fact of the matter is that bullying can take many forms and can happen in the most unsuspecting of environment, from school, the office to the home environment.

The psychological reasoning behind why some people bully and others get bullied is many and varied; also, there is a lot of talk on how to handle bullies, however only one way works effectively, and that is to stand up to bullies and be prepared to fight.

Some of you might be outraged by this, I’m not advocating out right violence; yet the truth of the matter is, Bullies, understand, respect & fear one thing; someone who’s got the courage to stand up to them.

Understand this, there are 3 groups of people; those that bully; those that get bullied; and those that neither bully nor get bullied.

This third group learnt very early on that you can suffer the pain of standing up to a bully once or experience the tyranny of bullying everyday for a life time.

It’s interesting to note that this 3rd group of people engage in some form of physical, sporting or martial activity, exercising their body to, condition, expand & control their mind and emotion. They have:

1. Self Mastery & Character
2. Self Confidence
3. Self Assuredness
4. Self Discipline
5. Self Control
6. Assertiveness
7. A Strong Body & A Strong Mind

Let’s be honest, bullies only bully us when we are most vulnerable, for example when we are by ourselves, in an alien environment, physically weaker, mentally and/or emotionally disadvantaged; the annoying thing, is that facing up to a bully is one of those fights that mum, dad, our teacher, or the system can’t fight for us; we either deal with it once or suffer it everyday in some other way by some other bully, because our persona gives us away.

The ball is in your court.

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